Exploring Motherhood in Portland, Maine with Photographer Winky Lewis

Winky Lewis and Susan Conley on the making-of their forthcoming book

By Peter Kolonia | Published Feb 5, 2016 1:30 AM EST

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httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages20160210_wl_ap.jpg — We slept in canvas tents on wooden platforms at night, and I could reach my hands up and poke the sides where the rain pooled. I liked that tent. I liked how the night sounds were all around me, and we were almost living in the woods. What would that be like really? If we had to survive on our own? Liza and Kimmy and I all passed the swim test so we could jump off the high diving board, and this helped. I missed my Mom so much that I knew it was better just to swim and not talk about the missing. *© Winky Lewis*

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages20160215wl_ap.jpg — Today the ocean is blue like a galaxy in outer space where you swim through stars and black holes and the forcefields of moons, and it never ends. If I think too much about infinity, I have to close my eyes. Down here the earth is chained like a little dock to the rocks. We spin and spin and we don’t ever let go. *© Winky Lewis*

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages2016027wl_ap.jpg — You have to be sad, the boy said to his mother, to understand happiness. He was eight and summer spooled out in front of him, the most thrilling thing maybe ever. Something delicious you could eat. The mother nodded like she understood him. But what she was really thinking was how to protect him, just a little longer. And how the sky seemed so forgiving in July. After he swam, the boy’s dark hair was wet and furred like a seal. *© Winky Lewis*

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages2016026wl_ap.jpg — Right before the boy fell asleep, he asked his mother what he should dream about. He was on his stomach with his little face towards the wall, leaving her already. His dreams called to him, and the pale flowers rang like chimes. Oceans, the mother said. And rivers. And trees. This is how much I love you, she said. More than these three things. *© Winky Lewis*

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages20160211wl_ap.jpg — I, Liddy Millspaugh, solemnly swear to love you and honor you til death do us part. (But that doesn’t mean I won’t run loose on the island and hunt seagulls). And I, Lolie Millspaugh, solemnly swear to cuddle you and bathe you (even though I hate the baths when you smell like dead seal). Sister I never had. Keeper of the family truth. My witness. *© Winky Lewis*

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Flying. Yeah. It’s something I do whenever I can. I fly in the morning when the sun rises. I fly at night when there’s no moon. I fly with my eyes opened or closed. It’s the very greatest thing. Sometimes I wear my new back to school outfit when I’m flying. Sometimes I just put my wings on and practice lift off.

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages20160224wl_ap.jpg — In school I learned the word chrysalis. It means outer shell, the place where the butterfly turns into an adult. The hard casing. My shell is soft like silk after I shuck corn. Gossamer. My teacher said when the butterfly hatches, its wings are like this word, gossamer. So delicate you can’t touch them or they’ll break. *© Winky Lewis*

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages20160226wl_ap.jpg — It got so I didn’t want to go to the circus. At first it was just the clowns who scared me. I told my Mom how I thought they might kidnap me. I was six. I was always talking about kidnapping because who does that? Something so mean? The rest was okay. The Arabian horses were better than okay. But then the elephants came out, and I knew we could never come back. There were three of them. Their trainer wore a green sparkly dress and cracked a whip by their feet. Then they climbed up on three red stools and looked so ashamed. Their eyes were like doe eyes. Like the eyes of kind old men, but much bigger, and they all said save me. *© Winky Lewis*

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages20160238wl_ap.jpg — The movie I play inside my head is always in color, and the soundtrack is me humming underwater. *© Winky Lewis*

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I think smell is the sense that people miss most when they lose it. Not eyesight. Not hearing. Not touch. I’d miss my hair most. It talks to me. It tells me my history.

httpswww.popphoto.comsitespopphoto.comfilesimages20160248wl_ap.jpg — After dinner the boys come outside with their skateboards. Charlotte sometimes comes too and we play hopscotch. Last year she gave me all her American Girl dolls. I couldn’t believe it. This is what I know: that I’m ten years old, I’m American, and I’m a girl. The rest is confusing. I like it when Charlotte and I talk because she’s older. She’s already been through ten. She’s made it to thirteen. *© Winky Lewis*

Winky Lewis, the Maine photographer widely acclaimed for her relaxed, wholly natural, and evocative images of children collaborated on an unusual project with her friend and neighbor, the writer Susan Conley.

Each week for a year, the two mothers of young children shared details of their journeys through “motherland” in 52 formally identical exchanges: Lewis would send Conley a photograph of a child or children from the neighborhood, and Conley would respond with a prose poem or vignette that elaborated or otherwise commented on the photo.

The result of these 52 exchanges is a heartfelt and emotionally resonate book, Stop Here: This is the Place—A Year in Motherland, published by Down East Books. It speaks to the inner child in all of us, with a sharply observant eye turned toward the joys, confusions, and rich emotional tapestry that is motherhood.

Here, Lewis and Conley discussed their collaboration with American Photo.

How did Stop Here come about?

Susan Conley: We were driving in a car. It was later summer. We were coming back from a swimming hole. Winky was driving, and she said, “What if I sent you a photo every week and you responded to it with a story?” I thought it was a great invitation to collaborate, and I knew right away that it would mean risk-taking for both of us. It would require a giving up of some measure of control, and that would only mean good things for the project.

Winky Lewis: For a few years, once in a while, we had talked about collaborating on something. This photo-a-week idea seemed just the thing to get the ball rolling. We began in the spring of 2013 and followed through for 52 consecutive weeks. My kids, Susan’s kids, a few neighbors, and other friends of my kids are in the pictures, too.

When you started did you envision the project becoming a book?

Lewis: It really didn’t start out as a book project—just an exercise. A few months into it, though, I felt we were on to something. I loved the writing and stories that I was getting back from Susan. We didn’t talk about what we were doing. Our discussions really went no further than my e-mails back to Susan each week with exclamations like, “Oh my god!” or “In tears!” or “Wow, how did you go there!?” When we were almost at the year point I told my brother, a designer, about the project. I handed him a pile of folders with pictures and words, and before I knew it we had a rough draft of a book.

Conley: The key to the process was pure collaboration and a banishing of the censor. Another key was to frame the project with clear parameters: a weekly exchange, a year-long experiment. Both of us had to feel room to move and try things and not feel judged or judge the work ourselves until long after it was completed.

Lewis: We really worked independently, and quietly. I think we both kind of loved where we were going, and didn’t feel the need for much discussion or planning. It was very organic and neither one of us wanted to jeopardize it by overanalyzing it.

Conley: The collaboration seemed an alchemy of photos talking to words. It happened in that quiet, intimate way that photographs can transport us to rooms in our memory and elicit longing, nostalgia, and meaning that we didn’t even know we needed. I would receive a photo, take a quick look, and not look at it again for a day or two. Then early in the morning—I always wrote before anyone else in the house was stirring—I would immerse myself in the photo again and go into a writing mode. I tried to stay really open to whatever story arrived, and tried not to respond to the photo too literally. That felt important: that the photo offered me narrative undercurrents that I had to search for and be sensitive to. They weren’t necessarily tied to the obvious objects or physical elements in the photo. I was looking for a story underneath the surface story of the photo. Winky’s photos are thrilling in that they allow me to engage in a kind of time travel back to my own childhood.

What were the pleasures and the frustrations of the collaboration? Are there future projects planned?

Conley: There were no frustrations—just a need to trust the process and be patient. I knew that the accumulation of the pages could be powerful and in a sense tell a whole year in the life of these free-range kids and their mothers.

Lewis: We’ve actually continued our dialog into a second year and are almost ready to go if this first book finds an audience. I personally would love to collaborate on anything with Susan.

Do you have any tips or suggestions for other creatives who might consider a similar collaboration?

Lewis: I would say jump right in. I wish we’d done this sooner!

Conley: I think putting a frame around the project is key: defining its scope and process. I tell this to my writing students often: define the scope of your project and its colors may become even more vivid.

Winky, how did you respond to Susan’s words? Do you have a favorite piece of text? If so, which and why?

Lewis: I would literally stop dead in my tracks as I read her text. A few times, I actually laughed out loud, but more often Susan’s response to the photos made me cry. Her writing took the photos to places I would have never imagined. It amazed me that I could feel so much from the words. Too much of my time is spent racing places, feeling rushed—the writing I’d receive from Susan made me stop and think about and really feel something. Even when I got a little teary, it felt right and good. Susan knows me and my kids well enough that she can write about us and not about us. Some of her text was so far from the reality of the scene that they made me laugh.

What do you hope audiences will take away from the book?

Lewis: I would love for people to reflect, to get drawn back into their own childhoods for a second and to be reminded of a wonderful, painful, heartbreaking, or real moment in their own parenting.

Conley: I would like people to be reminded of how alive the imaginations of kids are. How much is going on in there: how much lucid, brave parsing of the world is happening in their fertile imaginations. How much fear, joy, and stepping forward populates each of their days. When I read the book now, I am happy for how it honors kids and pays homage to families in all their constellations.

Stop Here: This is the Place —A Year in Motherland will be published in April, 2016. The book can be preordered here.